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Feeling Glued to the Floor and Can’t Move on? Watch This!

Thursday, October 3rd, 2013

Turning 50 is a tricky thing indeed. Life can change on a dime, with no warning. Grown kids might leave home, or come back! Maybe your aging parents–who might be needier than your kids right now–move in. Perhaps you’re thinking about retiring, or starting a whole new career. And we all know the statistics on people over 50 who get divorced.

All these changes can sometimes make us feel stuck in place, and keep us from moving forward with our lives. For sure, fear can play a big part in this, but very often it’s just not being sure of what your future should be.

Well, I’ve got news for you! We who are 50+ have many years ahead of us and the last thing we want to do is not enjoy every one of them! This is not the time to let people, things, obligations and other “clutter” keep us glued to the floor. Even if we welcome family members back to our homes, or get divorced, it doesn’t mean the experience should stop us from living our lives.

I talked with organization expert and best-selling author Julie Morgenstern about steps we can take to get unstuck . . . so we can move on with our lives.  Here’s the newest episode of THE BEST OF EVERYTHING WITH BARBARA HANNAH GRUFFERMAN, the original web series for the AARP YouTube Channel, where Julie guides us to getting unstuck:

And remember this: We can’t control getting older . . . but . .  we can control how we do it!

For more tips on living your best life after 50 (or 60, or 70…) check Keep me posted on how you’re doing by subscribing to me on Facebook and “tweeting” me on Twitter at @BGrufferman. Check out my web video series-The Best of Everything with Barbara Hannah Grufferman-on the AARP YouTube Channel!



Skills: Get Them, Keep Them, Use Them . . . No Matter How Old You Are

Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

An article recently ran in the New York Times–“The Internship–Not the Movie” by Thomas L. Friedman. At first glance, this article seemed irrelevant to me or to people in my age group. However, as I delved deeper I changed my mind. (more…)

Stand Up and Be Heard!

Saturday, July 16th, 2011

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.

– Martin Luther King, Jr.

I’ve written several articles recently  on Huffington Post suggesting why Americans should be mad. Some of the reasons given include unemployment, sexism, ageism, war, environmental concerns, health care, and more. There’s no question that we’re all quite mad, based on the sheer number of comments each of the posts received. The anger and frustration spewing from the comments is palpable, and understandably so. That’s good, because anger can beget action.


Derailed by the ‘Mommy Track’? Ten Tips to Get Back to Work

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

It’s been over 20 years since Felice Schwartz published an intriguing and inflammatory article in the Harvard Business Review called “Management Women and the New Facts of Life,” which was immediately nicknamed the “Mommy Track.” Ms. Schwartz’s premise was simple: professional women are more diverse than we realize, and quite different from men. Some focus on careers, while others choose to have families, possibly removing (more…)


Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

Our generation has always been known as adventurous and ready for whatever’s next.  So, it is only natural that at this point in our lives, we find ourselves reflecting on what we’ve done . . . and what we might want to do.

We’ve spent decades accumulating skills, experiences, knowledge, contacts and wisdom.  What do  you want to do with yours?

Maybe you’re in a career that you love, and you plan on doing exactly what you’re doing until you’re well past ninety.  Maybe you’ve been a lifelong homemaker or are busy as a full-time grandmother.  Maybe you’re poised to retire, or you already did . . . and maybe you even want to get back into the work force because you’ve come to the realization that many of us are going to have to work for a few years past the traditional retirement age of 65 because the economy hasn’t exactly panned out the way we had hoped.

Or . . . maybe you don’t need to keep earning but you want to stay engaged and active.

But, it isn’t always easy to know what to do, or how to get started.  And, there can be roadblocks along the way.

Sometimes, in our youth-centric society, it’s easy to convince ourselves that once we are over fifty, we are obsolete and should sit quietly, out of sight.  But, that’s the wrong thing to do.  Read today’s paper and you’ll see a growing list of problems and issues that would benefit from your experience, knowledge, skills, and compassion–all of which are the result of your years on this planet. 

While researching the chapter on “What’s Next“ for THE BEST OF EVERYTHING AFTER 50, I came across a fantastic book — WE ARE THE NEW RADICALS: A MANIFESTO FOR REINVENTING YOURSELF AND SAVING THE WORLD, which encourages individuals to turn their passions into meaningful and financially rewarding work.  I contacted the author, Julia Moulden, to talk more about her “New Radical” movement.  Julia told me during our first conversation that “There are endless possibilities for experienced women to use their well-earned skills to support the things that matter to them, whatever that is.”  We all have talents and skills and certainly by the time we’re in our fifties, we have experience.  The last thing we should do is start to doubt ourselves, or our abilities. 

Julia’s own dream didn’t materialize until she was almost fifty. At that point, she figure that, barring any unforeseen disaster, she had over thirty productive years left in her.  She had gone through a divorce in her late forties, and made the transition from “do I want to work” to “I have to work.”  But after twenty-five years as a successful speechwriter, Julia was getting restless.  She found herself thinking about an earlier time in her life when she was still in college and talked with friends about changing the world. She realized that other women she knew–many of them in their fifties–had the same questions.  Julia decided to combine her expertise with her dream of making a difference in the world . . . and created a new business.  The New Radicals Movement was born.

Julia is a fabulous role model for women of all ages, and I encourage you to read her book, whatever you’re thinking about doing.  She inspired me to be fearless about pursuing my dream to be an author and speaker, and she will inspire you, too.  Follow Julia on Twitter: @JuliaMoulden and read her posts on the Huffington Post every week in the Living Section. (Pssst . . . she also tells me that a new book will be coming out soon!)

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