Archive for February, 2010

The Power of Asking For Help

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Dear Everyone,

When I decided to write this book, I had a very specific idea in my head: to seek out the best information from some of the best experts

So I started my list.  Not having direct and immediate access to luminaries such as Diane von Furstenberg, or to some of the most trusted and experienced doctors, I reached out, and asked for help

Without fail, every single person — those I know well, and some I”ve never met — agreed to help, and in many cases went above and beyond

Why? Simply because I asked

Do not misunderstand me.  It wasn’t because it was ME who did the asking.  It’s because people, I believe, are inherently kind and generous, and actually take great pleasure in being able to help when asked. 

You know how they say just being there is half the battle? Holds true for seeking help, too.

One of the greatest lessons I learned during this whole process is that Hillary Clinton got it right – it takes a village.  There’s no way this book could have been written if I hadn’t reached out to people, and if they hadn’t reached right back. 

Even now that the book is finished, and getting ready to launch at the end of March, I’m still reaching out, asking for help, and getting more than I had ever hoped for. 

Lesson for all of us?  We will always need the help of others.  Don’t ever stop yourself from asking . . .

Best of Everything,

Barbara

To Salt or Not to Salt

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010

Hi Everyone,

Is salt a demon?

I think not.  Salt improves the flavor of food, and if the intake of salt is reduced too much, there can be unintended and possibly adverse consequences.

But, too much salt can contribute to high blood pressure, which can, in turn, wreak all kinds of havoc in the body.

Not good.

So, what’s the right answer?

There’s alot of debating going on right now in the medical community about salt, and while the talks continue, consider this:

Keep it simple–stop eating processed foods (a HUGE source of sodium) and start eating whole foods (fruit, vegetables, small amounts of animal protein, nuts, beans, whole grains) . . . all of which have low or no sodium, except what you add while preparing.  And, when you do add salt, try sea salt. Its flavor is more intense, so a little goes a long way.

If you follow the eating plan suggested by the experts in my book, you’ll naturally lower your intake of sodium.   

Simple.

Best of Everything,

Barbara

NEED A GOOD REASON TO MOVE YOUR BODY EVERY DAY? RESCUE A DOG!

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

Gunther--the best reason to walk every day!

Hi Everyone,

Nag alert:  we all need to move our bodies every day.  Period.  Running, walking, spinning, biking . . . whatever your choice is, you’ve got to do it every day.  You’ll keep your weight down, health check numbers where they should be, and it just feels good! But, sometimes we need that little extra reason to get us out there.

While writing my book for women over 50, I was insisting that my readers had to, at the very least, walk 10,000 steps every day, and yet, I was barely making it to 3,000.  Why?  The same excuses that you probably have–too busy, too tired, will do it later, have a headache, writing a book.  There I was, telling women what to do, and barely doing it myself.  Until . . .

Sarah and Elizabeeth have been asking for a dog since they could speak.  Every year, their birthday and holiday wish lists had “dog” at the top.  Howard and I put them off for years (full disclosure: especially Howard).  But, one day last March, Howard woke up and said, “I think we should have a dog.”  Huh? Was I not smack in the middle of writing a book?  Could I possibly devote any time to training a puppy (which is what I had assumed he meant)? And, we all know it’s mom who takes charge of the new dog, no matter what the other family members may say. But, it was too late.  His words hung in the air, the girls too stunned to talk, mouths open, eyes wide.  The puppy train had left the station. 

As I sat there, pondering how I was going to finish the book, and deal with a new puppy, on top of everything else, a thought came into my head.  I can’t claim it as my own, original idea, mind you, because Howard and the girls had actually brought it up several times before, whenever the subject of “dog” came up.  But, all of a sudden, I stood up, feet firmly planted on the floor, hands on hips, and said “Okay. I’ll agree, with one caveat — our dog must be a rescue dog, and not a puppy.”  There, I said it.  I agreed to the plan, but with my own little spin.  It really made perfect sense — we’d be rescuing a dog that needed a home, and it would be a dog, not a puppy, so the presumption was that he or she would be at least partially trained.  Since the girls had decided long ago that their dog of choice was a Brittany, they flew to the computer and went to the “National Brittany Rescue Network” and got to work finding their perfect dog, while chatting and fighting over who would get to walk him the most.  Yeah, right.

It took a few months, but finally, Gunther, a perfect 6-year old male Brittany, was flown to us from Michigan.  His family had to give him up for financial reasons, and he had been living with a wonderful foster familyuntil a permanent home could be found.  At La Guardia airport, the crate slid down the ramp, with Gunther inside.  We were so nervous we could barely bring ourselves to open the door of the crate.  But, we did, and out he came, and looked like he could be saying “Okay, let’s go home.”

Howard always said he would never, ever let a dog sleep on our bed, or even in our bedroom. It took him exactly one night to take an old blanket from the closet, declare it “Gunther’s Blanket”, and place it on top of our comforter.  To say that we are completely gaga over this dog is a true understatement.  He is charming, elegant, dignified, calm, completely trained, and loves us with that unconditional love that I had only read about.  But, I digress a bit . . .

Gunther is a Brittany, and Brittanys need to move.  Well, living in an apartment building in Manhattan, I’m not about to let him “out the back door” to run around a few times a day (it’s a pretty big drop from the 18th floor), so (which brings us back to the “move our bodies” message), I am forced to get out and take him on long, intentional walks and runs. Gunther has been the number one biggest contributor to moving my body every day, no matter what the weather. Three times a week Gunther and I run/walk (see program in The Best of Everything After 50) for five miles through Central Park, and the other days I take him on long, fast walks . . . all of which have allowed me to surpass my goal of 10,000 steps every day and lose 12 lbs. A bonus is Howard takes Gunther on his last walk of the day, around 11pm, and usually for 30 minutes, so Howard is reaching his goal of 10,000 steps (or close to it!), too.

If you already have a dog, don’t just let him out into your yard. Walk him, run with him, and wear a pedometer while you’re doing it so you can make sure you’re getting the 10,000 steps in.  It’s good for you and it’s good for your dog.  If you don’t yet have a dog, consider rescuing one.  I promise you, it will be the most wonderful reason for moving your body that you will ever have.

Best of Everything,

Barbara

 

Who’s Your Style Muse?

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

 

Hi Everyone,

All the tweets, news reports and talk about Fashion Week here in New York City got me thinking about style, and who has really made an impact on my own personal style (if you can call it that!). You know, someone who is always pulled together, who just knows how to add the right scarf to make an outfit, who inspires, who just always looks great? In other words, a style muse.

Then it dawned on me: I have my very own muse! And her name is Cousin Barbara. 

It was 1968, and she came to visit us from Germany.  I was 12 and she was 19–a gap as wide as the Atlantic Ocean that separated our daily lives. I mean, really, she had no interest in hanging around with a 12 year old!  But, that was a long time ago (or as Cousin B would say: that was in former times). And now?  Best friends, and closer than sisters. 

We’re connected by our maternal grandmothers, who were twins.  My grandmother, being a bit more rebellious, left Germany at the age of 18, moved to Brooklyn, and never looked back.  Her grandmother stayed, and raised her family in a little town in southern Germany.  Over the years, we’ve marveled over our shared ancestery, but very different upbringings–me, in great big NYC, and her, in a very small village an hour away from  Stuttgart. And yet, we are truly like two peas in the proverbial pod.

Cousin B  introduced me to Kandinsky, all kinds of modern art (she was an art teacher for many years), and to the only perfume I’ve worn since 1985–Jill Sander Woman III.  My love of modernism can be traced back to our early museum trips, when she would patiently explain every painting that we viewed, in perfect English, with her great, big Lina Wertmuller sunglasses positioned strategically on her head. 

Since she visits us several times each year, Cousin B knows New York City better than any New Yorker, has gone to every hot restaurant that’s opened while she’s been here on a visit, and can negotiate price with the shop owners in Chinatown, and still leave them smiling. I learned how to navigate the subway system from her.

Since I don’t have much innate style, I rarely make big, important, life decisions without discussing them with her first by email, phone, or Skype, and if I can hold out buying or doing something until she’s here on a visit, all the better.  Together, we figured out that my new sofa should be white leather, and that the “thing” I knitted could be hung on the wall as piece of art.  And, thankfully, she’s stopped me from making some pretty senseless fashion purchases over the years, saving me lots of money and from seeing my husband and daughters roll their eyes even more often than they normally do.

No question, Cousin B is definitely my style muse. But, I  have one question: now that my daughters are getting older and more interested in their own “looks”, do I have to share?

Who’s your style muse?

Best of Everything,

Barbara

Show This To Every Man You Love

Monday, February 15th, 2010

Hi Everyone,

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day, and after some great organic dark chocolate, one of the best gifts you can give the most important man (or men) in your life is the link I’ve attached here.  It’s an interview on Good Morning America’s NOW program with Dr. James Underberg who specializes in lipids, cholesterol and hypertension, (and is one of my key experts in The Best of Everything After 50) and football great Joe Theismann.  Dr. Underberg has joined forces with Joe to raise awareness about a “silent killer”–Abdominal Aortic Aneurysms–which effect more men than women, and usually men over the age of 60.  Listen to this video clip of the interview, and forward it to every man you love.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/video/abdominal-aortic-aneurysms-9811132&tab=9482931&section=1206835&playlist=3547557&page=1

Best of Everything,

Barbara